Some of you may be wondering where the name ‘Mama + Me’ came from. Well, when I first started playing around with the idea of having a market, I wanted something that put emphasis on the mother, as she is many times the researcher and decision maker about purchasing family products. I also wanted to empower all the mama entrepreneurs out there, so ‘Mama’ seemed the perfect fit. I also saw the ‘Me’ as a way to symbolise the relationship between the mother and the child, or the mother and the father.
What I didn’t manage to see until I was knee deep in my Mama + Me journey, was that for many mums -myself included- there is a completely other dimension to the name.
Women go through many transitions in their lives from a girl to a young woman then to womanhood. For many, the most dramatic of these changes is from womanhood to motherhood. It turns your world upside down and many women feel like they lose a part of themselves that they’ll never get back.
In my own experience I noticed that I stopped investing my time and energy in things that I’d always seen as a part of my personality. For instance I’ve always had a huge passion for music. But once I got pregnant, I no longer felt I needed to have the most up to date music on my playlists. I stopped going to see live music, at first it was because I was sick or tired or I didn’t want to be around drunk people etc. but then after my son was born and even once he weaned, I still didn’t go out much.On the upside I felt slightly relieved to not feel like I had to ‘keep up’ with popular music and go to the ‘effort’ of going out but then I noticed I had stopped listening to the music I loved all together (other than the Disney soundtrack). I even stopped listening to the radio. It was then I knew something had to change. I felt like I’d lost my mojo, I was no longer me anymore, I was purely a mama.
I needed to start putting more energy into myself and creating a balance between those roles. There needed to be a shift in my priorities. It was almost like I had to redefine what it meant to be me and I had to try to fall back in love with myself again. You know, I needed to start serving myself as well as my children.
I am not just the milk making, nose wiping, dancing in the kitchen to Disney songs while making pancakes mama. I’m also first and foremost a woman who loves to dream, to read, to do yoga on the beach, to light a candle, have a bath or sing ‘Bobby McGee’ at the top of my lungs. I’m someone who loves to cook, to create and to cultivate.
So that my friends, is where I find myself and where I have found ‘Mama + Me’. It’s that place that exists between the wholesome nurturing Mama that lives and breathes for her babes and the fun-loving soulful woman that, at times feels like a little girl dreaming up her next big adventure.
I know it might sound like a cliche because everyone always says, ‘you’re no good to anyone if you don’t look after yourself first’ but until you feel it first hand, no one can give you permission to make that shift except for you. You alone need to find that balance.
And honestly it is a daily balancing act that I personally struggle with but I would love it if you could all think about those things that feed your soul. The things that make the little girl in you jump up and down and say, ‘plz plz plz! Can we do it now?’ Share those things with yourself, then share them with the world!! Those things are worth the ‘effort’. Those things are your mojo. They are the essence of you and your dreams, passions and pursuits are what I want to celebrate here.
I love that I can be sitting in a room full of mums chatting about the highs and lows of parenting, knowing our struggles are much the same, but also knowing that we are all so wonderfully unique. Every one of us has an incredible story to tell, each as important as the next. Every mama has so much light and beauty to share with the world.
I hope I can do the name ‘Mama + Me’ justice. I promise to show you all a piece of me as a mama and as a woman, in hopes of lighting a fire in your belly to pursue your own life purpose. I also hope to shed light on other mamas’ stories too. I promise to handle your stories with care and I humbly thank you all in advance for putting your trust in me.
I must say- being a Mama is a huge honor, and I wear the title with immense pride, but being Me is pretty cool too.